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o v e r s t o r y
Coming
out of the Queer Closet
by
Nedhera Landers
f e a t u r
e s
A
Response to Alix Dobkin's article "Queer & Present Danger"
by
De-Anna Alba
Living
Deliberately
by
Mowani Carter
The
Queering of Femininity
by
Susan Craigie
c o l u m n
s
Health
by
Dr. Lipstick
Wealth
by
Ms. Moneygrrl
Sex
by
SexySuzi
Advice
by
Victoria
Fashion
by
Fran Fatale
Femme
Perspective
by
Christine
Butch
Perspective
by
Daddy Rhon
Publisher's
Note
Letter
from the Editor
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The
High Price of Long Distance Love
by
Ms. Moneygrrl
(Continued,
page 4)
Book
your travel in advance! The savings are really significant. Try
to plan your trips from Thursday to Sunday, or Friday to Monday
rather than on weekends. Remember to avoid holidays. If Monday
is a holiday, fly back on Sunday night instead. For example, by
flying over Memorial Day weekend I got a last minute ticket to
Seattle for only $105.00 round trip! Normally, a last minute ticket
would run about $329.00. My only limitation was that I had to
return on Sunday night instead of Monday. Let me tell you, though,
it was worth it!
Know
your budget
Know
how much you can afford to invest in your long distance relationship.
Be honest about it - with yourself and your partner. Talking about
money is often really uncomfortable, but it is important that
your partner knows your limitations and vice versa. If you can't
afford to see each other every month, figure out something else
that will work. Sometimes, spending a week together is better
than spending 4 separate weekends together.
Make
a budget for your expenditures, make it realistic and stick to
it. You won't be able to stick to an unrealistically low budget,
and you won't give yourself the ability to plan for expenses that
way either.
After
receiving my $400 phone bill, my partner and I decided to limit
our selves to one weekly call, on Sundays! That didn't even last
a week. It was unrealistic for our budding love. We had to revise
our plans and decided on something that better met our needs.
We limited ourselves to one call a day, which was usually a good
night call. This call was to last no more than 15 minutes. During
the day, since we both had access to email, we wrote lots of notes
to each other that way. We also used Yahoo! Instant Messager during
the evening hours when we are both home catching up on our other
emails. The funny thing is, we still email each other back and
forth almost 15 times a day!!
Let
me tell you, I know first hand how expensive a long distance relationship
can be. Love strikes in amazing ways and when it has its grasp
on you, you can't help but to want to experience that sweet feeling
each and every moment.
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